I COULD BE MISTAKEN BUT. . . .

. . . it strikes me that most men and womens' sexual fantasies involve abuse, mild or severe, of one's own or someone else's body or mind in one form of expression or another. In answering the question " what's the thought that makes you come? " most folk will blush and dip into their dishonesty reserves. Or feign outrage and back off. I'm not saying love and affection don't exist in relationships but a man at least is schism'd into two parts and the lust bit in the bedroom is about abuse fantasies, overtly expressed or if his partner is straight, secretly thought, during the act. After the man comes ( and sleeps !), then a woman can have the affection she craves ~ if the man has that in his nature. I have researched this somewhat. . . . if a woman imagines she is getting "lovey dovey" from her man in the bedroom she is living in another sad fantasy land.

So we have the rather unpalatable possibility that many of us walking around are the by-products of rape fantasy.

But I'll have to put all this to a psychotherapist some day, see what he/she has to say.
Or if you ARE a psychotherapist do comment herewith below.
Oh my God have you realized? ~ PSYCHO THE RAPIST !

MSM.